Dear Abby: I thought I was a good mother, so why does my son act this way?

DEAR ABBY I have a full-time job and am in pretty good strength I have one son Brian who is married and has three children Related Articles Dear Abby My mother-in-law torpedoed the surprise party Dear Abby I identified these photos of his proposal to another woman Dear Abby She wants to dress my little girl in sequins and leopard print Dear Abby I checked her story about a celebrity classmate and proved she was lying Dear Abby I heard my father-in-law sneak a woman into the basement I was a single mom who raised my son on my own I thought I was a pretty good mother My obstacle is that he is often rude to me His wife is super sensitive to any comment I make and finds fault with almost anything I do They spend a lot of time with her family and exclude me If I make a comment about Brian s wife he gets mad and calls me hateful or rude I have been good to both of them helping in any way I can yet they do not take that into consideration Brian and I get into arguments over this Sometimes I have gone overboard and described him he requirements to figure out what his trouble is with me He never tells me why he behaves like this They don t visit me or bring the children over They say they are busy but they constantly find time to visit her family their cousins etc Must I give up on having any kind of relationship with them I love my son and would like to be a part of his life but I don t think I should accept him being critical of me all the time no matter what I do If I try to talk objectively with his wife she says I m trying to start something Please help HEARTBROKEN IN GEORGIA DEAR HEARTBROKEN I ll try Assume control of your life and quit looking for crumbs from your son and his wife Doing otherwise has brought you only pain and disappointment Recognize that however you raised your son you did the best you could under hard circumstances Your daughter-in-law seems to have taken control of your son and he has allowed it Sadly it s not rare When you see or talk to them exchange nothing but pleasantries Concentrate your energies on your friendships and other aspects of your life This may save you from additional grief and be more rewarding than continuing to hit your head against a brick wall DEAR ABBY I am a -year-old girl There are several mean girls at school When I talk to them they say mean things I don t have a good comeback so I just stand there doing nothing I need specific good tips I keep telling adults but the girls keep doing it How can I make them stop for good and do you have particular comebacks I can use SPEECHLESS IN IDAHO Related Articles Asking Eric The kid who smiled while he tortured his brother is not normal Harriette Cole The day care worker regretted her bad advice about my child Miss Manners Is it weird when I talk behind my hand My husband says it is Dear Abby My mother-in-law torpedoed the surprise party Asking Eric They refuse to take their stuff out of my garage DEAR SPEECHLESS There is no way to force a bully to stop This ugly behavior is who those girls are I don t recommend trying to beat them at their own cruel event by competing on their level because if you do they will win Instead of approaching them and giving them the opportunity to say mean things to you consider trying to make friends with other girls girls who might like to be friends with you too Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA